How to Make Your Relationships Work :)

Love yourself. 

The love your boyfriend or girlfriend gives you will never be a substitute for your own self-esteem. Love yourself, and others will find it easy to love you, too. Don’t undermine yourself or be overly critical. Being relaxed and fun will make both you and your partner the happiest you can be.

Trust your partner. 

A lack of trust will doom any and every relationship. Be on the lookout for controlling behavior, and learn

to stop it before it starts. If something is bothering you, you need to be able to talk to your lover about it rather than let it eat away at you. Just don’t assume the worst every time you aren’t certain what is going on, and you’ll find that it probably was never the case anyway.

Think like a couple. 

If you and your significant other really want to spend the rest of your lives together, you need to be an effective team. Don’t be selfish, but also don’t make yourself miserable so that your lover will be happy. The two of you are in this together! Learn to think in ways that benefit you as a couple, rather than just one of you individually.

Listen always.

Be open to what your partner says to you, even if it’s critical and even if you disagree initially. Try to gain flexibility and perspective in your life. There’s a difference between a knee-jerk response and a well-thought-out position, and your relationships will improve the more open you are!

Give them space. 

If your boyfriend or girlfriend likes to do something that you don’t enjoy, just spend that time away from them working on your own hobby. Smothering your partner with your presence will only drive them further away from you. Even though you’re in love, you can lead separate, adult lives.

Communicate!

We’ve all heard this a million times from every piece of dating advice ever given, but the reason it’s still said so often is because it doesn’t always sink in. The crucial role that open communication plays in a relationship cannot possibly be overstated. Always be honest, even if the implications are painful. Your life will ultimately be happier because of it.

Be proactive. 

If your relationship has issues, the last thing you want to do is sit around and wait for somebody else to solve them. If you feel strongly that it is mostly your partner’s fault, then that is a problem in and of itself. If you want your partner to express affection to you, go and express affection to them first. The power is always in your hands to do something meaningful.

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I hope this one would give a help :) Love and be Loved !

LOVE AND DATE AN AQUARIUS

Unlocking the Mystery

If an Aquarian had things their way, which they would really like, there would be only 11 signs in the zodiac. Aquarians are independent and very proud of their originality, and they don’t want to be lumped into a group. The person who manages to get the Aquarian’s attention is the one who seems to appreciate them for the unique and somewhat mysterious and magnetic beings they really are. While most people see Aquarians as both friendly and at times frantic, you, as a potential love interest, see them as unique and charming individuals. If you truly understand them, you know that allowed their freedom and independence, your Aquarian will become a loyal, open-hearted partner who will always champion your cause. 

Dating an Aquarius

Aquarians love to play the field prior to being in a committed relationship, and they won’t commit until they find someone they can communicate with both verbally and mentally. “Like Geminis, Aquarians place a premium on communication. They’ll be plenty of pillow talk between the two of you too. Having common interests is also something that will keep you connected as a couple. Joining clubs that rescue animals or have an interest in preserving the environment will create a deep bond”. Aquarians are humanitarians at heart.

Love an Aquarius 

If an Aquarian loves you, you can bet they see you as a rare gem. They may have many acquaintances but fewer really good friends, and they would rather stay single than be in a committed relationship with someone who doesn’t communicate with them and understand them to the deepest core. When an Aquarius says, “You get me,” they say it with delight, and they mean it.

Aquarius is a fixed sign, meaning they don’t like it when they have to deal with change. It’s more important that you can fit into their world than for them to bend them around yours.

“Change is always to be welcomed rather than feared because it leads to the best relationship choices and the greatest freedom.” – Faith ext. 9608

The philosopher in them knows though that no one is perfect. However, if they love you but still find some of your habits intolerable, Aquarius will wonder how they can get you to change those habits. There would be less single Aquarians if they could just learn to live with the little “imperfections” belonging to their significant others.




Aquarians Aside

Of course our Sun signs only make up a part of our personalities. Knowing that alone, will ease any anxiety Aquarius feels about reading this article, which they will undoubtedly shed doubt on. That’s because there is one thing that every Aquarian has in common with every other Aquarian, they like to be individuals. And though they would like us all to think they are complex and indescribable, they are simply normal people with big hearts and big dreams. They like to be financially secure, they don’t like taking orders, they’re extremely generous with their resources, and they love to argue about trivial things, until you give in, because they probably never will give in themselves. 

  

Proud of being ONE! :)

“Astrology brings so much to the table; it gives you the personality, likes and dislikes of a person. Their nature is uncovered and if it is not a match for you, it can be worked around to make it work.” 

On the Other Side

           

  As I woke up this morning, a thought came to my mind. "Work, that is always left undone". It's not that I grumbled of having work, because some people need one too, It's just that I'm sick and tired of what I have now, frankly speaking I am NOT happy anymore! For the past seven (7) months that I've been working here in this company, smiles are only countable but others are duh! never mind though! Actually, there's nothing wrong with the kind of colleagues that I do have. I am always annoyed about the kind of work that I do have, what kind of designation I am into. I don't love it anymore, you know, the work stuff! aside from knowing that it's not my passion, it's not the kind of work that I would love to do. It is always my daily routine to say or utter the word "I'm TIRED!". Because I really am! I am tired of everything in here. The company, the kind of management that I am into. The kind of job that I am working! Searching for good and suitable resumes all day, weeks and months are so disgusting! Realizing that at the end of the day you accomplish nothing!

  Seems like I am not, you know, growing up as an individual, a person. I don't feel any achievements here. While on the other side, if they do feel that I am worthless here, that I am no use at all, why keeps me here for long? If they can sense that I am not an asset anymore in their company, then terminate me! If they are tired of hearing my grumbles, then me too! I am tired so much! I don't feel also making ways just to be or get close enough to them (you know some other management staffs) and I don't give such a damn! If I'll do it, it's not me anymore! I will not ever  forget this line that was given to me by one of our head. "If you're doing the same thing, wala kang ma-achieve!" -Yeah right! If I will be still be doing the same thing, searching resumes all day long, that stuff, I won't achieve anything in here for me, for my own benefit. I wont achieve good things that I can be proud of! and I'm sure about it! If you don't like me because of the kind of performance that I am showing about my work, well same to you! It's a win-win situation duh! o_O If you always ask us on how we assess ourselves, do you have some time to assess yourself too? Do you still take a single second to ask yourself how good you are? or are an effective _____?

            

  I still don't know what matters to this one, but for me, it is. This is what I feel as days passes by that I am still here in this company., They treat their employees as an employees and that's all PERIOD! It feels like you're in hell while you're in here. Demons are everywhere! :p

  Life may lead me to different places, another journey, but one thing is for sure, I will not take this path again in my whole entire life, un-happy my heart is not at its peace. I know God is in me, he will take me to where I do really belong, and it's not in here =)

GOOD DEEDS :)

It was around 6:30 in the evening, 26th day of April 2012, when I am with my office mates in the night market after office hours eating "kwek2" (hard boiled egg surrounded with some colored flour in  it) and having some chit chats bout what we did in the office. Somebody just caught my attention, a boy, a kid ages around 8-10 maybe. He was merely looking, staring to be exact at the "kwek2", I can see in his eyes that he wants to eat it. Seems like he's hoping and wishing to eat that stuff, but he can't 'coz he don't have that enough money maybe, that's why he just turned around and went to some places and started to beg or ask some penny and food to different people in other table.  My heart just melt with what I saw and realized that night, without any hesitations, I rushed to find him again, that little boy who's not just caught my attention but captures my kind heart :), then I smiled and asked him "Do you want to eat kwek-kwek?" when he turned around, without any uttered word, he nodded. I smiled once again and told him "Come!". So, i brought him to our table, give him some kwek2, and there I found happiness in my heart that night.

I don't have that money much by that night, but I know in myself I can still give him some. Giving him the opportunity to eat that food was really an unexplained feeling for me. My heart just filled with so much happiness when I saw how eager he was to eat it.

I think it is always my nature, being a humanitarian one. Maybe because I came from a family that is willing to give help to some other people whenever they need hit, I admit, that we don't have that much in this world, but, as long as we can lend a hand, we do. That is me, not that perfect, but willing to lend a hand to those who are needed. :)

Love and be Loved :)

When he knelt down before her to just Say  “I Love you “…
Do you feel he was losing his self-respect?
"He wasn’t … Instead he was gaining her respect!!" =) 

When he mocks and irritates her,
Do you feel she hates it?
"No, she silently enjoys it!!" =P


When he’s sick n she’s caring for him, do you think she’s just doing her duty?
"No, but dying herself just to see him alive …” = ( 

When he does something wrong and tears roll from her eyes, do you feel they are just tears?
"No, They are not… It’s her soul melting for him...” =) 

That’s True Love..., Love and Be Loved, But, If You Can’t, at least don’t be Fake! :) ♥ ♥

HE IS MY HAPPINESS :)

HE is My Happiness =)

A man with few words,
A man that acts more than what he utters,
A man, who is my best friend, my best buddy, my companion, my partner, my boyfriend, my lover, my HAPPINESS and My Baby,
A man that will always be loved by simply being who he really is.

A man, who's more than I prayed for.
He is truly a God's Gift that will be cherish forever.
He may not be always at my sight, but he will always remain in my heart.
A love that will always last.






We may encounter some strife's,

Hope and pray that we'll surpass.
Because at the end of the day we will last.
"Hold my hand, BABY I promise I'll do all I can..."

- So don't you worry about people hanging around, they ain't bringing us down- 

THE ONE THAT HURTS MOST

Have you wondered which hurts the most?

Saying something and wishing you had not,

Or saying nothing and wishing you had?

I guess the most important things

Are the hardest things to say.

Don’t be afraid to tell someone you LOVE them.

If you do, they might break your heart....

But if you don’t you might break theirs.

Have you ever decided not to become a couple?

Because you were so afraid of losing

What you already had with that person?

Your heart decides whom it likes and whom it doesn’t

You can’t tell your heart what to do.

It does on its own... when you least suspect it,

Or even when you don’t want to.

Have you ever wanted to love someone with everything you had, but that person was too afraid to let you? Too many of us stay walled because we are too afraid to care too much... for fear that the other person does not care as much, at all.

Have you ever denied your feelings for someone?

Because your fear of rejection was too hard to handle

We tell lies when we are afraid...

Afraid of what we don’t know,

Afraid of others will think,

Afraid of what will be found out about us.

But every time we tell a lie...

The things we fear grow stronger.

Life is all about risks and it requires you to jump!

Don’t be a person who has to look back and

Wonder what they would have, or could have.

No ONE waits FOEREVER... WHAT WOULD YOU DO...

• What would you do if every time you fell in love, you had to say good-bye?
• What would you do if every time you wanted someone they would never be there?
• What would you do if you’re best friend died tomorrow and you never got to tell them how you felt?
• What would you do if you loved someone more than ever and you couldn’t have them?
• What would you do if you never got the chance to say “I am friends with all of my family and they know I LOVE them?”

Some people love, and some people die.

But I want to tell you that you are a friend.

If something happened to me tomorrow,

You would be in my heart.

“WOULD I BE IN YOURS?”

EXCEPTIONAL LIVING

Being an amazing couple requires a good memory more than a toolbox of great skills…

Remember you two are in love…

Remember you two care about each other…

Remember you two can stand together and take on the world…

Remember you two are a team…

Remember you two share your most intimate feelings…

Remember you two enjoy being silly together…

Remember you two have fun together...

Remember you two can find times to be mischievous...Remember you two are awesome friends…

These helped bring you together… Remembering them will help keep you together…

You are the perfect fit for your perfect relationship. 

Changing yourself to force a fit into a relationship works only for a while. Your truth will not be hidden for long with out demanding attention. Be YOU, it is the greatest gift you can give someone else.



Written by Kenny Brixey

MARRIED OR NOT. YOU SHOULD READ THIS...

“When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now. 

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.


Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband….

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.

So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

If you don’t share this, nothing will happen to you.

If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”

A MAN WORTH WAITING

How would you describe the ideal man? Tall?dark?handsome?? Too often a guy may satisfy your eyesight, but leave your heart empty and still longing. Remember after a few years that tall,dark,and handsome guy can be transformed into a pale, bald guy with bifocals on those gorgeous eyes.


-A Man worth waiting for-

1. Puts the needs of others ahead of his own.

This man accepts people just the way they are, loving others even when his love is not returned. He will continue to love someone because of his commitment to that person, not because of how he feels. (Philippians 2:3-4)

2. Rejoices in his relationship with Christ.

You don’t have to ask this man if he is a Christian. His joy in the LORD is evident in his life. (John 15:11)

3. Maintains proper relationships.

This man seeks a good relationship with everyone—from his friends to his parents. He listens to differing perspectives without feeling threatened. He has strength to back off from a fight. He works to forgive wrongs done to him and seeks to make his own offenses right. He will not hold a grudge. (Hebrews 12:14)

4. Refuses to jump ahead of God’s timing.

He is not so eager to do something that he cannot wait on God’s timing. He chooses against impulsiveness so he may be in the exact center of God’s will. (Psalms 37:7)

5. Seeks to meet the practical needs of others.

He is not so self-absorbed that he cannot make time for the needy. (Ephesians 4:32)

6. Stands for what is right.

He hates anything contrary to God’s holy character. He is known as a man of integrity. (Romans 2:9-10)

7. Follows through on his God-given responsibilities.

He uses the talents God has given him and realizes that “he + Jesus = adequacy for any God-given job.” He is neither overconfident nor absorbed with feelings of inferiority. He is not a dreamer, wishing for more ability, but a diligent steward of the talents he has been given. This man is dependable and stays with even a difficult task until it is completed. (I Corinthians 4:2)

8. Understands the importance of feelings and emotions.

Some woman may find themselves attracted to a demanding man, assuming that his dominance will be their security. Other women may marry a doormat they can dominate, but inevitably end up despising the man’s weakness. A gentle man is the best of both; he takes initiative to lead but tempers it with gentle responses toward the other’s feelings. (Colossians 3:12)

9. Flees temptations to compromise.

This man refuses to be in situations that are sensual, immoral, or impure. He does not entertain friendships that lead to drunkenness and carousing. He avoids talk that could cause strife or jealousy. This man does not allow a temper to control him or anger to destroy him. (Proverbs 25:28)

*These qualities are not UNREALISTIC IDEAS (as some may believe). When a man follows Jesus, the Holy Spirit works these into his life. Galatians 5:22-23 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.



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See if this list contains any of the qualities you are looking for in a man.

1. Spirit- controlled Christian (Eph 5:18)

2. Jesus is #1 in his life, not just an ornament (Mark 12:30)

3. Broken; understands how to rely totally upon Jesus. (Philippians 4:13)

4. Ministry-minded; wherever he is,he is available (I Cor 4:2)

5. Motivator; man of vision, concerned about lost souls. (Rom 10:14)

6. Sensitive spirit; in tune to the needs of others (Gal 6:2)

7. Understands the awesome responsibility of a husband to his wife (Eph 5: 25-31)

8. Humble enough to be a disciple (teachable)and able to disciple others (Matt 28: 19-20)

9. Man of prayer; he knows the key to success is his private time with God (Col 4:2)

10. Family man; he desires to have a children and raise them properly for God’s glory. (Prov 22:6)

All of us are at differing levels of maturity. As some may say, a REAL MAN ("tunay na lalaki") does not really exist, it's just GIRL'S ILLUSION and FAIRYTALE. But, a MAN OF GOD really do exist. A man of God who works toward being conformed to the character of Christ.

Do you want to marry a Boaz? Then set your standards high. To be married to a man who loves the Lord and wants to serve Him is one of life’s highest privileges. It is worth whatever wait, whatever cost. Don’t settle for less than God’s best.


---Ms. Happiness---