How to Make Your Relationships Work :)

Love yourself. 

The love your boyfriend or girlfriend gives you will never be a substitute for your own self-esteem. Love yourself, and others will find it easy to love you, too. Don’t undermine yourself or be overly critical. Being relaxed and fun will make both you and your partner the happiest you can be.

Trust your partner. 

A lack of trust will doom any and every relationship. Be on the lookout for controlling behavior, and learn

to stop it before it starts. If something is bothering you, you need to be able to talk to your lover about it rather than let it eat away at you. Just don’t assume the worst every time you aren’t certain what is going on, and you’ll find that it probably was never the case anyway.

Think like a couple. 

If you and your significant other really want to spend the rest of your lives together, you need to be an effective team. Don’t be selfish, but also don’t make yourself miserable so that your lover will be happy. The two of you are in this together! Learn to think in ways that benefit you as a couple, rather than just one of you individually.

Listen always.

Be open to what your partner says to you, even if it’s critical and even if you disagree initially. Try to gain flexibility and perspective in your life. There’s a difference between a knee-jerk response and a well-thought-out position, and your relationships will improve the more open you are!

Give them space. 

If your boyfriend or girlfriend likes to do something that you don’t enjoy, just spend that time away from them working on your own hobby. Smothering your partner with your presence will only drive them further away from you. Even though you’re in love, you can lead separate, adult lives.

Communicate!

We’ve all heard this a million times from every piece of dating advice ever given, but the reason it’s still said so often is because it doesn’t always sink in. The crucial role that open communication plays in a relationship cannot possibly be overstated. Always be honest, even if the implications are painful. Your life will ultimately be happier because of it.

Be proactive. 

If your relationship has issues, the last thing you want to do is sit around and wait for somebody else to solve them. If you feel strongly that it is mostly your partner’s fault, then that is a problem in and of itself. If you want your partner to express affection to you, go and express affection to them first. The power is always in your hands to do something meaningful.

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I hope this one would give a help :) Love and be Loved !

LOVE AND DATE AN AQUARIUS

Unlocking the Mystery

If an Aquarian had things their way, which they would really like, there would be only 11 signs in the zodiac. Aquarians are independent and very proud of their originality, and they don’t want to be lumped into a group. The person who manages to get the Aquarian’s attention is the one who seems to appreciate them for the unique and somewhat mysterious and magnetic beings they really are. While most people see Aquarians as both friendly and at times frantic, you, as a potential love interest, see them as unique and charming individuals. If you truly understand them, you know that allowed their freedom and independence, your Aquarian will become a loyal, open-hearted partner who will always champion your cause. 

Dating an Aquarius

Aquarians love to play the field prior to being in a committed relationship, and they won’t commit until they find someone they can communicate with both verbally and mentally. “Like Geminis, Aquarians place a premium on communication. They’ll be plenty of pillow talk between the two of you too. Having common interests is also something that will keep you connected as a couple. Joining clubs that rescue animals or have an interest in preserving the environment will create a deep bond”. Aquarians are humanitarians at heart.

Love an Aquarius 

If an Aquarian loves you, you can bet they see you as a rare gem. They may have many acquaintances but fewer really good friends, and they would rather stay single than be in a committed relationship with someone who doesn’t communicate with them and understand them to the deepest core. When an Aquarius says, “You get me,” they say it with delight, and they mean it.

Aquarius is a fixed sign, meaning they don’t like it when they have to deal with change. It’s more important that you can fit into their world than for them to bend them around yours.

“Change is always to be welcomed rather than feared because it leads to the best relationship choices and the greatest freedom.” – Faith ext. 9608

The philosopher in them knows though that no one is perfect. However, if they love you but still find some of your habits intolerable, Aquarius will wonder how they can get you to change those habits. There would be less single Aquarians if they could just learn to live with the little “imperfections” belonging to their significant others.




Aquarians Aside

Of course our Sun signs only make up a part of our personalities. Knowing that alone, will ease any anxiety Aquarius feels about reading this article, which they will undoubtedly shed doubt on. That’s because there is one thing that every Aquarian has in common with every other Aquarian, they like to be individuals. And though they would like us all to think they are complex and indescribable, they are simply normal people with big hearts and big dreams. They like to be financially secure, they don’t like taking orders, they’re extremely generous with their resources, and they love to argue about trivial things, until you give in, because they probably never will give in themselves. 

  

Proud of being ONE! :)

“Astrology brings so much to the table; it gives you the personality, likes and dislikes of a person. Their nature is uncovered and if it is not a match for you, it can be worked around to make it work.” 

On the Other Side

           

  As I woke up this morning, a thought came to my mind. "Work, that is always left undone". It's not that I grumbled of having work, because some people need one too, It's just that I'm sick and tired of what I have now, frankly speaking I am NOT happy anymore! For the past seven (7) months that I've been working here in this company, smiles are only countable but others are duh! never mind though! Actually, there's nothing wrong with the kind of colleagues that I do have. I am always annoyed about the kind of work that I do have, what kind of designation I am into. I don't love it anymore, you know, the work stuff! aside from knowing that it's not my passion, it's not the kind of work that I would love to do. It is always my daily routine to say or utter the word "I'm TIRED!". Because I really am! I am tired of everything in here. The company, the kind of management that I am into. The kind of job that I am working! Searching for good and suitable resumes all day, weeks and months are so disgusting! Realizing that at the end of the day you accomplish nothing!

  Seems like I am not, you know, growing up as an individual, a person. I don't feel any achievements here. While on the other side, if they do feel that I am worthless here, that I am no use at all, why keeps me here for long? If they can sense that I am not an asset anymore in their company, then terminate me! If they are tired of hearing my grumbles, then me too! I am tired so much! I don't feel also making ways just to be or get close enough to them (you know some other management staffs) and I don't give such a damn! If I'll do it, it's not me anymore! I will not ever  forget this line that was given to me by one of our head. "If you're doing the same thing, wala kang ma-achieve!" -Yeah right! If I will be still be doing the same thing, searching resumes all day long, that stuff, I won't achieve anything in here for me, for my own benefit. I wont achieve good things that I can be proud of! and I'm sure about it! If you don't like me because of the kind of performance that I am showing about my work, well same to you! It's a win-win situation duh! o_O If you always ask us on how we assess ourselves, do you have some time to assess yourself too? Do you still take a single second to ask yourself how good you are? or are an effective _____?

            

  I still don't know what matters to this one, but for me, it is. This is what I feel as days passes by that I am still here in this company., They treat their employees as an employees and that's all PERIOD! It feels like you're in hell while you're in here. Demons are everywhere! :p

  Life may lead me to different places, another journey, but one thing is for sure, I will not take this path again in my whole entire life, un-happy my heart is not at its peace. I know God is in me, he will take me to where I do really belong, and it's not in here =)

GOOD DEEDS :)

It was around 6:30 in the evening, 26th day of April 2012, when I am with my office mates in the night market after office hours eating "kwek2" (hard boiled egg surrounded with some colored flour in  it) and having some chit chats bout what we did in the office. Somebody just caught my attention, a boy, a kid ages around 8-10 maybe. He was merely looking, staring to be exact at the "kwek2", I can see in his eyes that he wants to eat it. Seems like he's hoping and wishing to eat that stuff, but he can't 'coz he don't have that enough money maybe, that's why he just turned around and went to some places and started to beg or ask some penny and food to different people in other table.  My heart just melt with what I saw and realized that night, without any hesitations, I rushed to find him again, that little boy who's not just caught my attention but captures my kind heart :), then I smiled and asked him "Do you want to eat kwek-kwek?" when he turned around, without any uttered word, he nodded. I smiled once again and told him "Come!". So, i brought him to our table, give him some kwek2, and there I found happiness in my heart that night.

I don't have that money much by that night, but I know in myself I can still give him some. Giving him the opportunity to eat that food was really an unexplained feeling for me. My heart just filled with so much happiness when I saw how eager he was to eat it.

I think it is always my nature, being a humanitarian one. Maybe because I came from a family that is willing to give help to some other people whenever they need hit, I admit, that we don't have that much in this world, but, as long as we can lend a hand, we do. That is me, not that perfect, but willing to lend a hand to those who are needed. :)

Love and be Loved :)

When he knelt down before her to just Say  “I Love you “…
Do you feel he was losing his self-respect?
"He wasn’t … Instead he was gaining her respect!!" =) 

When he mocks and irritates her,
Do you feel she hates it?
"No, she silently enjoys it!!" =P


When he’s sick n she’s caring for him, do you think she’s just doing her duty?
"No, but dying herself just to see him alive …” = ( 

When he does something wrong and tears roll from her eyes, do you feel they are just tears?
"No, They are not… It’s her soul melting for him...” =) 

That’s True Love..., Love and Be Loved, But, If You Can’t, at least don’t be Fake! :) ♥ ♥

HE IS MY HAPPINESS :)

HE is My Happiness =)

A man with few words,
A man that acts more than what he utters,
A man, who is my best friend, my best buddy, my companion, my partner, my boyfriend, my lover, my HAPPINESS and My Baby,
A man that will always be loved by simply being who he really is.

A man, who's more than I prayed for.
He is truly a God's Gift that will be cherish forever.
He may not be always at my sight, but he will always remain in my heart.
A love that will always last.






We may encounter some strife's,

Hope and pray that we'll surpass.
Because at the end of the day we will last.
"Hold my hand, BABY I promise I'll do all I can..."

- So don't you worry about people hanging around, they ain't bringing us down- 

THE ONE THAT HURTS MOST

Have you wondered which hurts the most?

Saying something and wishing you had not,

Or saying nothing and wishing you had?

I guess the most important things

Are the hardest things to say.

Don’t be afraid to tell someone you LOVE them.

If you do, they might break your heart....

But if you don’t you might break theirs.

Have you ever decided not to become a couple?

Because you were so afraid of losing

What you already had with that person?

Your heart decides whom it likes and whom it doesn’t

You can’t tell your heart what to do.

It does on its own... when you least suspect it,

Or even when you don’t want to.

Have you ever wanted to love someone with everything you had, but that person was too afraid to let you? Too many of us stay walled because we are too afraid to care too much... for fear that the other person does not care as much, at all.

Have you ever denied your feelings for someone?

Because your fear of rejection was too hard to handle

We tell lies when we are afraid...

Afraid of what we don’t know,

Afraid of others will think,

Afraid of what will be found out about us.

But every time we tell a lie...

The things we fear grow stronger.

Life is all about risks and it requires you to jump!

Don’t be a person who has to look back and

Wonder what they would have, or could have.

No ONE waits FOEREVER... WHAT WOULD YOU DO...

• What would you do if every time you fell in love, you had to say good-bye?
• What would you do if every time you wanted someone they would never be there?
• What would you do if you’re best friend died tomorrow and you never got to tell them how you felt?
• What would you do if you loved someone more than ever and you couldn’t have them?
• What would you do if you never got the chance to say “I am friends with all of my family and they know I LOVE them?”

Some people love, and some people die.

But I want to tell you that you are a friend.

If something happened to me tomorrow,

You would be in my heart.

“WOULD I BE IN YOURS?”